Let’s face it: most of the time when something goes wrong the first thing we do is look for someone(usually not ourselves) or something to BLAME!
I suggest a different way to approach this dilemma. Here it goes:
All things happen because there was a thought that preceded a series of actions that gave a result. Thoughts are created by us, our ideas. We act on them and we get the results. If things go well, we are happy and say to ourselves: “I did that” but when things go horribly wrong we say: ” It was so and so’s fault!” Why is it that we take responsibility for good things and relinquish it, blame someone else, when the opposite happens? Because it’s the easy way out.
In a way we, we create a mental prison for ourselves by not taking FULL responsibility for the results that we got! and we sit there cycling through our own convoluted mental labyrinth of blame! And we become more angry at someone or something that we have no control over(economy, war, the guy who cut you off on the road…etc.) This self-imposed mental pressure kills a person literally from inside out.
I have a suggestion(of course after I read an article by Bob Proctor-a great mentor):
Take responsibility for how you FEEL about what you accomplish(your results.)
It is choice. Simply, you can say ” I did this.” Good or bad, I did it. Or, you can cycle back into the blame game. If your results were bad it is most likely due to the thought that you started out with. Deep down you may have not been a 100% clear about what you really wanted. I mean 100% clear–having a “fuzzy” idea does not cut it! Because “fuzzy” goals or ideas bring about “fuzzy” results!
When you take responsibility you gain control of your life and refuse to allow other people and circumstances control you.
You become powerful!
Sure, you might hit a few snags along the way but if you have confidence in what you really want you will find a way to make it happen. truly, if you have a solid idea and you have passion, the way to your results finds itself, you just have to action toward your goal and believe! wishing it alone doesn’t make it true! Step by step each result builds on another and you may take a small step back and tweak things, then ramp it up and make a huge leap…… but it starts with taking responsibility and eliminating the word and thought BLAME from your vocabulary! Things happen and how we choose to look at them, our perspective, makes the difference.
I’ll leave you with a quote from George Bernard Shaw:
“…..The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, they make them.”
I wish you success, confidence and love.
As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,
©Perseka LLC 2010