Perseka http://perseka.com Personal Development & Self improvement= Positive Thoughts + Synergy + Action = Success For All Mon, 23 Jan 2012 22:04:54 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Start at the end (part 1) Remembered by Family http://perseka.com/2012/01/start-at-the-end-part-1-remembered-by-family/ http://perseka.com/2012/01/start-at-the-end-part-1-remembered-by-family/#comments Mon, 23 Jan 2012 22:01:04 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=398 Family copyright 2012 Perseka

I have been reading extensively lately about character and how it is core of one’s success. After all, my quest has always been about self empowerment and how it leads to personal success.  I came across a passage that affected me deeply written by Stephen Covey.  To paraphrase, he suggested [...]]]> Family copyright 2012 Perseka

Family copyright 2012 Perseka

I have been reading extensively lately about character and how it is core of one’s success. After all, my quest has always been about self empowerment and how it leads to personal success.  I came across a passage that affected me deeply written by Stephen Covey.  To paraphrase, he suggested starting with “the end in mind” and piece together the path to get to the end by which you would like to be remembered.
So here is the first question, without getting too morbid,  when your Eulogy is read How would you like to be remembered by your FAMILY?  To answer this you must be truly honest with yourself and not have any distractions.  You get to this after you have found out what your purpose on this Earth really is, but that another matter which I will discuss later. For now concentrate on this visual,  your son(daughter) or your (wife/husband), maybe your mother (father) or just a loved one from your family whom you respect and would value his or her speaking about you is standing up to give a speech about YOU after you have passed on for whatever reason.   What would you like to hear about yourself if you were sitting in the audience?
Here is mine:
“He was a Husband/Son/father who was there When I needed Him.”
“He was and taught me to be kind, caring, giving, to love and choose to Love over all else.”
“He helped me become who I wanted to be not who he wanted me to be.”
“He taught me to be disciplined and focused in anything I set my mind to do.”
“He cared about my views, opinions, my autonomy, and was compassionate and respectful even if he disagreed with me.”

 

How does this help us achieve success? be ready for the other 3 part as I will reveal more about the design behind the madness!

HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED?

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Kaveh N. Adel, D.D.S. Personal Development and Life Coach
P.E.R.S.E.K.A. Personal Education Restoring Self Empowerment through Knowledge and Action
2012©Perseka LLC

]]> http://perseka.com/2012/01/start-at-the-end-part-1-remembered-by-family/feed/ I love mistakes. http://perseka.com/2011/06/i-love-mistakes/ http://perseka.com/2011/06/i-love-mistakes/#comments Tue, 28 Jun 2011 23:57:08 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=383 Yes, you read it right. It is not a misprint. Let me explain:

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I love Mistakes

We all want things to be perfect. We get into our car and drive from our home to a destination that we drive to everyday. To us it is a routine, going from point A to point B. In our mind it might even be a straight shot, a seemingly perfect line.

But, it could not be further from the truth. Although it may seem that way no two days are the same. Some days it takes longer, other times we don’t even understand how we got there so fast. We never analyze how different the drive was and whether or not any thing changed or even if there were any mistakes.

We simply adjusted. In reality it was most likely a very jagged path we took, we may even have taken a back road once that we never took before but we still got there. Sometimes a back road that took longer but we kept moving. And we saw a new path that taught us something along the way.

Even a blocked path that forced us to do a U turn and inside our head say the infamous line by Homer Simpson, “D’Oh.” That mistake gave us feedback. Gave us something new. A lesson in awareness, well, more self-awareness.

Such is real life, mistakes are really only opportunities to learn and grow, a chance for self-improvement and success.

As long as we have the destination in focus we’ll get there and we should be thankful for mistakes because they remind us that it may be nerve wracking to have a “D’oh” moment but it can be fun and it will serve us well into the future. Being perfect all the time is boring and down right sets us up for failure as we can do no wrong– truly, that’s no way to live. Certainly no way to succeed!

So, I say with confidence: “I Love mistakes!”

That’s part of the path to self-development. Another important part is having a partner or a coach that helps us see the positives in the mistakes and learning lessons. Sometimes, that’s the missing part that keeps us on task, someone who keeps us accountable yet encourages us along the way. I certainly have benefited immensely from many coaches in my life and give credit to their guidance and patience with me!

 

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Kaveh N. Adel, D.D.S. Personal Development and Life Coach
2011©Perseka LLC

 

]]> http://perseka.com/2011/06/i-love-mistakes/feed/ Healing the past to pave your success in the future http://perseka.com/2011/05/healing-the-past-to-pave-your-success-in-the-future/ http://perseka.com/2011/05/healing-the-past-to-pave-your-success-in-the-future/#comments Tue, 31 May 2011 21:14:48 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=368 Dragging Anchor Perseka site for Self improvement and Personal Development

Dragging Anchor Perseka site for Self improvement and Personal Development

The title says it all.  We all have experiences (bad and good) in our past that linger in and anchor in our souls.  Some are too painful to even bring back up.  Some are easy to face and analyze.  Some involve people.  Others involve situations we got ourselves into.

In my experience, letting things get bottled up for years will affect one’s performance in every aspect of life.  First step is to become fully aware of this anchor that drags, kind of like a ship anchor getting stuck in the sludge and garbage and dragging it along with the ship. And be completely honest about it.  No sense lying to yourself. Face it,  it was that lying to yourself that got you to this uncomfortable place already! I find that writing this down helps, and if there is someone or people who are directly or indirectly involved in making you feel this way include their name too.

Then, ask yourself what you are feeling? Is it anger?  Or sorrow? Maybe it is guilt? Name your emotion! And find out what, who, where compels you to feel this way.  Most of the time it is just YOU and your perception, or it may be a certain person.

Next is the importance of acknowledging the fact that you are entitled to feel what you feel. Grant yourself that and be comfortable with giving yourself the right to feel what you are feeling.  A good friend of mine taught me that.

Then, you need to confront that feeling through communication.   It may involve writing something to the person who ignites that feeling and as calmly as you can let them know that you are feeling that way.  Or it may be that you need to analyze your own perceptions and change an environment that you have created for yourself that needs changing.

I can not emphasize communication enough.  If the person who was the instigator of those feelings does not acknowledge your right to feel what you are feeling after several communications then you have done all you can and this allows you to let go of the feeling that has weighted you down.  And therein lies the absolute gem:

letting go

It is easy to hold onto something that gives you a purpose to keep yourself occupied but you have no idea what letting go allows you to do.   It is simply the key paving your way to your successful future!

Of course, there is so much more to this than what I have described here and I plan to write more about it.  I hope this opens up a way for you to have an internal dialogue to help you sort and organize some of your own thoughts.

I should add that many stumbling blocks require consultation with others who are impartial such as personal coaches as well as medical professionals in case there are deeper issues that need to be dealt with.  Remember, there is always help you just have to make a decision to seek it!

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
2011©Perseka LLC

]]> http://perseka.com/2011/05/healing-the-past-to-pave-your-success-in-the-future/feed/ Surround yourself with Positive People http://perseka.com/2011/05/surround-yourself-with-positive-people/ http://perseka.com/2011/05/surround-yourself-with-positive-people/#comments Wed, 25 May 2011 23:26:20 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=351 Cartoon Surround yourself with Positive people for Perseka site 2011 Copyright Kaveh Adel Iranian American Cartoonist

Cartoon Surround yourself with Positive people for Perseka site 2011 Copyright Kaveh Adel Iranian American Cartoonist

I get up in the morning and think about how I can help myself become a better person. How can I become more successful with this barrage of bad news raining down on me and everyone around me everyday, needless to say, actual rain too!

It takes effort, darn it!  It takes effort to find a positive in a negative.  Then certain events pile it on.  For example, yesterday, I felt as though I had failed as a father since I did not act fast enough to catch my son from slipping and bumping his head against the tub.  He had a nice bruise, but he forgot about it in 5 minutes.  Me, I am still carrying the guilt a little bit.

If it was not for a handfulof wonderful people– positive people (friends, family and even some virtual friends from facebook) I would have still felt the negativity.  I am always the person who sees the positive in everything. I even teach that to people but I had to dig a little more. Those positive souls instantly lifted me out of my self-made shell.  And I did not look back!

Which brings me to my point.

Surround yourself with positive people.  Whether it has to do with your family life, business, finding a career, reconnecting loose ends in your own past or anything that will help you become more successful. It takes just as much effort and energy, if not more to feel negative about something as it does to be positive.  Then why don’t we choose the positive? You just have to look and awaken that energy within you, those positive sparks around you sure help along the way.

I dabble in art and cartoons from time to time, I thought my little doodle-cartoon was quite befitting of this post!

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
2011©Perseka LLC

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Learning into Action, Personal development Perseka LLC

We are in a time of change.  I am not talking about politics nor do I speak of the environment.  Although, that is certainly on everyone’s mind. I am talking more about the people and how they are thinking.  Well, more so about what they are learning.

We always hear the importance of education.  “Our children’s education is priority number 1!” I hear the authorities  say. They emphasize higher education and so forth.  But I really want to drive one very important point that really understand education we need to understand the word itself and what it entails:

The word education is derived from educare (Latin) “bring up”, which is related to educere “bring out”, “bring forth what is within”, “bring out potential” and ducere, “to lead”. (from Wikipedia)

To bring out!

So we can ram ideas into the brains of our youth but how can we be certain that they are able to “bring it out?”

We need to consider helping our youth and even the elderly by teaching them “how” to really learn.  And “how” to have a deep understanding of what they want to know.  And there lies the most important point:  “what they want to know.” When someone wants something they will put into motion their actions to do it, to learn how to get it but they take action! Along the way they make mistakes and that’s how they bring out what they really know, by doing it!

There are so many In the arena of success there are two kinds of people: those who learn and learn but never put what they learn into motion and then there are those who learn and continue to learn but they use and try and bring out what they learn.

I am reminded of Eric Hoffer’s quote:

“In a time of drastic change it is the learners who inherit the future. The learned usually find themselves equipped to live in a world that no longer exists.”

Who do we want to be?

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
2011©Perseka LLC

 

 

 

 

]]> http://perseka.com/2011/03/the-learners-versus-the-learned/feed/ Creative Thought works for me: Step 1 of 7 http://perseka.com/2010/08/creative-thought-works-for-me/ http://perseka.com/2010/08/creative-thought-works-for-me/#comments Mon, 09 Aug 2010 19:05:17 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=308 Creative Thought

As a scientist I have always believed in laws.  Laws of Thermodynamics, I was living by them and still do.  I always wondered about the connection between physical laws and what happens in our spiritual thoughts.  was there a connection?  I began to study (and I do everyday) not just science but [...]]]> Creative Thought

Creative Thought

As a scientist I have always believed in laws.  Laws of Thermodynamics, I was living by them and still do.  I always wondered about the connection between physical laws and what happens in our spiritual thoughts.  was there a connection?  I began to study (and I do everyday) not just science but different faith-based systems, never coming to a satisfactory answer that satiates my hunger for the unknown.

I began digging deeper.  There must be connection between what we imagine and think and how it becomes something physical. Just as a gas in nature is not visible yet subjected to physical changes of pressure and temperature it can become a solid physical substance. I have always accepted the fact that the energy in the universe is constantly changing from one form to another. I see it everyday before my eyes.   It is neither created  nor destroyed (1st law of Thermodynamics)but it is constantly changing, like a melodic motion seen in waves in the ocean.

So, I asked this question:  Can a THOUGHT be like an invisible form of a substance? And, can it transform into a solid form if subjected or focused (much like pressure)? And in theory, any thought we have, that we creatively conjure up, when focused will come into fruition.

The key here is creative THOUGHT and secondly constant FOCUS.  Back to the scientific analogy, if gas vapor is not pressured it will not turn into a liquid form and consequently, that liquid will not become a solid (i.e. Ice).

So what are we to do as free thinking human beings?

This is the single most important question we ask ourselves when we are faced with the future of our lives.

We can choose to allow forces of nature create our reality (outside influences, what others say, what happens in the world) or we can have a creative thought of what we want to become and “stick” to it with all of our energy, focused and positively charged emotions.

That separates the extraordinary from the rest.

This idea is not new, it has been studied and proven many times over.  It has been given names and titles by different scientists, philosophers, authors, gurus and motivational thinkers.  It is in every religion in the world.  It is the common thread, yet people fight over the semantics. Instead of burning their energy focusing on their creative thought they focus it on fighting with others. And, the outcome is war and hate and destruction. There must be a better way.

I personally call it CREATIVE THOUGHT.  That definition works for me and I am not going to argue with a scientist, religious scholar or a  self-help guru over nuance. I respect each person’s personal autonomy in what they choose to believe. It is better that way.

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
2010©Perseka LLC

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Persistence leads to movement

Another world cup analogy(seems befitting!): Germany vs. Spain was a clear example of two concepts, one showed that having all the skills yet forgetting to bring the emotion and passion leads to no result. It’s like sitting on a bicycle but not using the pedals–naturally [...]]]>

Don't forget the Passion

Persistence leads to movement

Another world cup analogy(seems befitting!): Germany vs. Spain was a clear example of two concepts, one showed that having all the skills yet forgetting to bring the emotion and passion leads to no result. It’s like sitting on a bicycle but not using the pedals–naturally the result is no movement.

Two, hitting road blocks and walls should not discourage one as persistence and creative ways to get results wins. Spain demonstrated that very well with creative passing and an unconventional goal, by their standards.

Applying these two principles will help you in life too!

I wish you passion, persistence, success and love.

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
©Perseka LLC 2010

]]> http://perseka.com/2010/07/passion-and-persistence/feed/ Blame, Blame, Stop Blaming others for your results! http://perseka.com/2010/07/blame-blame-blame/ http://perseka.com/2010/07/blame-blame-blame/#comments Thu, 01 Jul 2010 16:59:43 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=276 Why blame other when you don't take responsibility?

Let’s face it: most of the time when something goes wrong the first thing we do is look for someone(usually not ourselves) or something to BLAME!

I suggest a different way to approach this dilemma. Here it goes:

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Why blame other when you don't take responsibility?

Let’s face it: most of the time when something goes wrong the first thing we do is look for someone(usually not ourselves) or something to BLAME!

I suggest a different way to approach this dilemma. Here it goes:

All things happen because there was a thought that preceded a series of actions that gave a result.  Thoughts are created by us, our ideas. We act on them and we get the results. If things go well, we are happy and say to ourselves: “I did that” but when things go horribly wrong we say: ” It was so and so’s fault!“  Why is it that we take responsibility for good things and relinquish it, blame someone else,  when the opposite happens? Because it’s the easy way out.

In a way we, we create a mental prison for ourselves by not taking FULL responsibility for the results that we got! and we sit there cycling through our own convoluted mental labyrinth of blame! And we become more angry at someone or something that we have no control over(economy, war, the guy who cut you off on the road…etc.)  This self-imposed mental pressure kills a person literally from inside out.

I have a suggestion(of course after I read an article by Bob Proctor-a great mentor):

Take responsibility for how you FEEL about what you accomplish(your results.)

It is choice. Simply, you can say ” I did this.” Good or bad, I did it. Or, you can cycle back into the blame game. If your results were bad it is most likely due to the thought that you started out with. Deep down you may have not been a 100% clear about what you really wanted.  I mean 100% clear–having a “fuzzy” idea does not cut it! Because “fuzzy” goals or ideas bring about “fuzzy” results!

When you take responsibility you gain control of your life and refuse to allow other people and circumstances control you.

You become powerful!

Sure, you might hit a few snags along the way but if you have confidence in what you really want you will find a way to make it happen. truly, if you have a solid idea and you have passion, the way to your results finds itself, you just have to action toward your goal and believe! wishing it alone doesn’t make it true! Step by step each result builds on another and you may take a small step back and tweak things, then ramp it up and make a huge leap…… but it starts with taking responsibility and eliminating the word and thought BLAME from your vocabulary!  Things happen and how we choose to look at them, our perspective, makes the difference.

I’ll leave you with a quote from George Bernard Shaw:

“…..The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, they make them.”

I wish you success, confidence and love.

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
©Perseka LLC 2010

]]> http://perseka.com/2010/07/blame-blame-blame/feed/ Calmness of Thoughts http://perseka.com/2010/06/calmness-of-thoughts/ http://perseka.com/2010/06/calmness-of-thoughts/#comments Mon, 14 Jun 2010 16:40:48 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/?p=273 Calmness…….

Think about it for a second.  What does it really mean to you?

I personally look at it this way:  Everyday I am exposed to millions of images, sounds, thoughts.  I am  bombarded.  If I would let every single one of those outside items affect me, or form my actions I would be a [...]]]> Calmness…….

Think about it for a second.  What does it really mean to you?

I personally look at it this way:  Everyday I am exposed to millions of images, sounds, thoughts.  I am  bombarded.  If I would let every single one of those outside items affect me, or form my actions I would be a zombie. I have no internal creativity as a result because outside forces, people, things suck my energy out and I unwittingly let it happen!

The truth is, most of us are that way.  Most of us let that be the norm.  Most of us are O.K. with it. Truly, deep inside are we really calm? Are we really clear about what we want?

I see everyday that individuals, even groups of people start with and focus on the results (most of the time failures happening as a result of external forces) which cause thoughts (negative ones) that produce feelings (of failure) that translate into actions (filled with such failures).  That cycle produces worry, grief and uneasiness.

Here is a little gem about what it really means to be calm.  When we become aware of the fact that when we start with our thoughts which produce feelings and those feelings propel us into action that ultimately produce results, then we can rest assured that the external forces do not control us.  That is a calming in itself!

I’ll leave this post with one last thought.  When one becomes self-aware and understands one’s own ability to create and generate creative ideas,  then one will CALMLY give energy to what one wants. And, as Ralph Waldo Emerson said: ” The only thing that can grow is the thing you give energy to.”

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
©Perseka LLC 2010

]]> http://perseka.com/2010/06/calmness-of-thoughts/feed/ A Lesson in Inspiration http://perseka.com/2010/05/a-lesson-in-inspiration/ http://perseka.com/2010/05/a-lesson-in-inspiration/#comments Fri, 14 May 2010 19:48:04 +0000 Perseka http://perseka.com/2010/05/a-lesson-in-inspiration/ I have been waiting for a flower bud to bloom for a week….. It’s been raining a lot here and virtually no sun.

Naturally, the grass had grown uncontrollably and the weeds were a plenty! So all week I was bothered by the fact that I had not had the time to get to see [...]]]> I have been waiting for a flower bud to bloom for a week….. It’s been raining a lot here and virtually no sun.

Naturally, the grass had grown uncontrollably and the weeds were a plenty! So all week I was bothered by the fact that I had not had the time to get to see what became of the flower bud as I was preoccupied by the grass and the weeds!

After a thorough mowing and weed-picking I was drained but I managed
to squeeze in a few minutes watching that bud bloom into a flower literally before my eyes. It was amazing.

I couldn’t help but to think about life
As we all go through it and how this little everyday experience is profoundly similar to our daily battles.

Stay with me……

We go through our days sometimes doing things that we don’t like to do, or have to do, many things that we think are vital to our survival and problems that we need to “weed out”.

We put ALL of our energy into, we feed & water those things because what we think about and put our energy into, in a way, tendszt to grow. We forget and push aside the beautiful, positive things ( positive thoughts) that we truly care for and are passionate about. We either don’t see or they fail to bloom in front of our eyes.

Somethings, some ideas, bloom when time and conditions are right. Sometimes there are many ideas, many little buds and maybe one of them blooms and the other ones remain simply because………. You can fill in the blank!

If you need inspiration look at the bud and the flower I admired today:

As always to your health and success in all your dreams and thoughts,

Perseka,
©Perseka LLC 2010

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